I've tried all kinds of approaches to "New Year's Resolutions." Everything from swearing them off all together to making a detailed list of them. This year, I'm taking yet another approach. One that (hopefully) works for an accountant who is also a mom of 4 small children. Because if you have little kiddos, you know that it is quite rare that anything go according to plan. You know the essential nature of a "plan b"- you gotta have one in your back pocket. AT.ALL.TIMES.
May I present my 2014 goals-
including plan B.
Plan A: Plan out and stick to a training schedule that includes exercise at least 4 times a week.
Plan B: When I have to go up and down the stairs 947372949272 times a day, I'll run. And count it.
Plan A: Develop a regular sleep schedule for going to bed and getting up.
Plan B: Learn to walk in my sleep so I always feel like I slept through the night.
Be intentional about what we eat
Plan A: Plan out a biweekly menu, trying new dishes and incorporating healthy choices.
Plan B: Plan out a biweekly menu that incorporates healthy choices. And also incorporates the occasional breakfast for dinner and eating out nights. Allow for spontaneous "tonight I just can't cook".
Spend intentional time with my children
Plan A: Plan monthly one-on-one dates with each child. Help them discover their talents and special interests. Plan learning experiences for the whole family.
Plan B: Recognize the spontaneous opportunities I get each day to teach my kids. Take them with me to the grocery store, even if it means sweating more. Talk to them about money and Jesus and friendships and family while we drive in the car, while we snuggle together on the couch and while we eat dinner together. Be present.
Be involved at the kids' school
Plan A: volunteer more in the classroom, find an organization to be part of, get to know the other parents from our classes by inviting them over.
Plan B: take sonic drinks to the teachers when I think about it.. Say thank you more often. Say yes when others invite us on play dates. And recognize moments like taking a forgotten lunch or homework as opportunities to encourage kids I see in the hall and the adults who take such good care of my treasures each day.
Get to know our neighbors
Plan A: Invite neighbors over for dinner and play dates. Plan regular block parties.
Plan B: Play in the front yard more. Hire someone to mow our yard so that when we do get around to having people over we aren't already on the neighborhood naughty list.
Deepen relationships with others
Plan A: Set aside intentional time each week to visit with friends. Send encouraging notes and texts. Listen more.
Plan B: Pray that I'll still have some friends when I do come up for social air.
Do my part to grow our marriage
Plan A: Plan frequent dates. Find a study or other learning experience to work through together.
Plan B: say thank you more. Be frustrated less. Be quick to point out successes and slow to measure by unfair standards. Always give the benefit of the doubt. Say I'm sorry. Have fun together.
Grow in relationship with the Lord
Plan A: Plan out and stick to a daily Bible study plan. Get up early to start my day with the Lord.
Plan B: Pray to become a morning person. Ask for a heart that sees His presence in the busy-ness of each day.
Sweet readers of DRRF- Here's to you and your fresh start in this new year. I hope 2014 finds you with a spirit that is willing to dream big and set lofty goals. But also cut yourself some slack this year. Sometimes as a spouse/parent/neighbor, you'll find that if you'll allow yourself to embrace it- plan B isn't so bad after all.